Are friends really forever?
Maybe a few, or maybe it is just one of them who will really stay by your side till your death.
How do you define friends in the first place?
People who really know you well? People whom you meet very often? People who will help you in times of trouble?
It is sad when someone calls up his friend whom he misses and to hear: "Actually, you didn't have to call. We are just acquiantances." A friendship is gone with a call of good will.
I guess it takes two hands to clap in order for a relationship to work out, be it friendship or love. One may put in as much effort to keep the relationship going but it may be just futile efforts when the other party is not willing to commit.
A friend told me: "Maybe you should just stop organising gatherings for a year? See what happens." There were times when I really feel like doing so. Why should I be bothered with all these gatherings when there are others who simply can't be bothered with it? I do felt that I was taken for granted at times. So why am I still doing it?
If I am to stop organising, what may happen?
- People will just forget about the birthdays.
- Sub-groups will be formed as people are just too lazy to get all to attend.
- Less gatherings will be held.
- We may only meet once a year i.e. Chinese New Year.
- Or during our wedding dinners.
- More time will be spent with our own families. (Who cares about friends?)
- The next time we see each other will be on the streets, with your other-half beside you, dragging a couple of kids.
These kind of scenarios are already happening. The last time I met up with my Primary school best friend was like 3 or 4 years ago? I can't even recall when it was. We were always preoccupied with excuses or rather excuse "We are too busy." I even missed my friend's ROM as she thought I was too busy to attend. Are we so busy that we can't even spare a couple of hours for our dear friends? Or are we just afraid or lazy to re-establish the friendship? Or since we have not met up for so long, so why bother? A few days ago, it was the birthday of this "oldest" best friend I have and I sent her a birthday greeting via SMS. We arranged to meet up. After so many years, this friend and I am finally going to meet up for dinner tonight.
Maybe the above-mentioned are just some of my extreme thoughts again. (pessimism acting up again) Who knows? We may be ballroom-dancing or playing DOTA together in our retirement days. We shall see.
P.S. Friends, feel free to ask me out anytime. I may be busy at times but I will definitely spare time for you. Just let me know beforehand k.
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